You Know Yourself Mostly By Your Thoughts
Everyone else in the world knows you only by your actions. (James Clear)
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The title of this week’s letter is actually a quote I recently saw from James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, and I wanted to dive a little deeper into his words.
Following his post, Clear said…
Remember this when you feel misunderstood. You have to do or say something for others to know how you feel.
I firmly believe at the root core of all of us, we simply we want to be seen, felt and heard.
Because we want to be understood… personally, professionally, emotionally, creatively, psychologically, spiritually and more.
After all, we’re humans… or at least souls traveling in human form.
But we must also remember that to be seen, felt and heard, we are not our thoughts, but the actions we take, the work we bring to the world, the character we exhibit on others, the words and ideas we express to our loved ones and the consistency of all of the above.
We cannot expect the world to understand who we are, if we, ourselves, are not expressing who we really are… In short, no one is a mind reader and we shouldn’t expect them to be.
In our pursuit of our highest selves, let us remember that the world knows us by what we say and do, not by what we hold back.
Let us cultivate great thoughts… YES… but let us express them through our creativity, art, communication, writing, design, work, love, spiritual practices, charity and more.
We’re not here to hold back… we’re here to expand.
And we’re certainly not here limitlessly… we’re here infinitely.
Read this week’s Simplify, Multiply, Diversify below…👇🏼
Always say what you need to, never say more than you need to.
Yes, for people to understand who we are, we must be able to express ourselves, especially through words and actions that promote our needs, wants, desires, thoughts, opinions and more.
However, we can also say too much.
We must remember that not all people are the same audience and not all people have the same relationship with us.
Additionally, our thoughts are a gateway to knowing and understanding who we are, but we mustn’t be so quick to share before we ourselves truly understand where are our thoughts coming from.
That requires us to have an “inner” relationship with ourselves so we can determine a.) what is coming from our ego or lesser thoughts about what we are experiencing, and b.) what is actually coming from our heart.
And finally, some of the best words are the ones we don’t say because we’re too busy listening. Part of wanting to be understood is how we show up for others. The mere action of listening, observing and seeking to understand also tells another a lot about us.
We mustn’t be so quick to talk when listening can give us more answers than we had anticipated.
Good communication is really just art, when we let it be.
It all starts with our thoughts, but our worlds are created by bringing them to life.
… which means choose and edit your thoughts wisely and be bold enough to share them through all the means in which you intend to express yourself.
Seek ways that cultivate better and better thoughts.
Seek mediums and activities that expand them.
When our thoughts, actions and our words all align, so too, does the world in which we are actively participating in and creating.
In a world that has access to leverage in the form of media, technology, code and more, we’ve never been able to be more understood than now… so long as we share via our true authenticity and unbiased truth.
In short, you have no excuses to not expand and be understood with all the leverage we have. Find your tribe and love them hard.
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